#philosophy
Hedgehog’s Dilemma.
Why do we avoid intimacy even though we crave it?
The “hedgehog’s dilemma” or sometimes called the porcupine dilemma, is a metaphor about the challenges of human intimacy.
It describes a situation in which a group of hedgehogs seek to move close to one another to share heat during cold weather. They must remain apart, however, as they cannot avoid hurting one another with their sharp spines.
Though they all share the intention of a close reciprocal relationship, this may not occur, for reasons they cannot avoid.
The philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer conceived this metaphor to describe, what he considers to be the state of the individual, in relation to others in society.
The hedgehog’s dilemma suggests that despite goodwill, human intimacy cannot occur without substantial mutual harm, and what results is cautious behaviour, and weak relationships.
In situations of hedgehog’s dilemma, it is recommended to use moderation in affairs with others, both because of self-interest, as well as out of consideration for others.
The hedgehog’s dilemma explains self-imposed isolation.
– Joy Kallivayalil.
