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It’s Better to Build Boys than Mend Men.
by S Truett Cathy.
The book is a clarion call for adults to take an active role in shaping the next generation of men.
1. Mentorship Matters:
The book highlights the profound impact mentors can have on young boys. Cathy’s own story exemplifies how a positive male role model can shape values, work ethic, and future trajectory. It encourages adults, fathers, uncles, teachers, and community members to step up and provide guidance, support, and a listening ear to young boys in their lives.
2. Building Strong Values:
“It’s Better to Build Boys Than Mend Men” emphasises the importance of instilling core values in boys at a young age. Honesty, integrity, respect, and a strong work ethic aren’t afterthoughts; they’re the building blocks of a fulfilling life. The book offers guidance on how adults can model and reinforce these values through everyday interactions, conversations, and by leading by example.
3. Discipline Breeds Freedom:
Cathy argues that effective discipline isn’t about punishment, but about fostering self-control and responsibility. The book advocates for clear expectations, consistent consequences that are age-appropriate, and open communication. This approach helps boys understand the impact of their choices and develop the ability to make sound decisions
4. Building Bridges of Communication:
Creating an environment of trust and open communication is crucial for healthy development. The book encourages adults to be active listeners, validate boys’ feelings, and provide opportunities for them to express themselves openly and honestly. This fosters a safe space for boys to ask questions, share their struggles, and learn healthy communication skills.
5. Beyond the Ballpark – Cultivating Diverse Passions:
While athletics can provide valuable lessons in teamwork and perseverance, “It’s Better to Build Boys Than Mend Men” encourages nurturing a variety of interests in boys. This could include music, arts, technology, or community service. Exploring diverse interests helps boys discover their passions, develop well-rounded personalities, and build a strong sense of self.
6. The Power of Positive Reinforcement:
The book emphasises the importance of positive reinforcement and encouragement. Recognising and celebrating boys’ achievements, efforts, and positive behaviors builds self-esteem and motivates them to continue making good choices. Even small acknowledgements can go a long way in shaping self-confidence and a sense of competence.
7. Challenge by Design – Fostering Resilience:
Cathy argues that boys need healthy challenges to grow and develop resilience. This doesn’t mean creating unnecessary hardship, but providing opportunities for them to problem-solve, overcome obstacles, and learn from their mistakes. This fosters a growth mindset and the ability to bounce back from setbacks.
8. Faith as a Guiding Light:
The book explores the potential role of faith in shaping a boy’s character. While not prescriptive, Cathy suggests that faith can provide a moral compass, a sense of purpose, and a foundation for strong values. It can offer a framework for understanding right and wrong, compassion for others, and a sense of belonging to a larger community.
